Rising in love, a term less popular than falling in love. Is
it better than the latter? What exactly is the former?
Falling in love is quite common among us. All of us do fall in love in our lives, at
one time or the other. But knowing that this is not our cup of tea is the point
from where we start rising in love. It’s a decision. It’s a choice.
Loving someone is about investment. Investment of time. Falling
in it is about investment with expectations. As the lines from ‘The Little
Prince’ go “It is the time you spent on your rose that makes your rose so
important.” When enough is spent, we tend to form a special bond with the rose
and feel its importance. Here, investing involves most of our time occupied
with the thoughts of the other person such as—thinking what the person might be
doing now, whether or not the person is fine, if there are any problems
bothering the person, how we could help ease out the person’s discomfort. Some
other thoughts –Is the person too thinking about me? When will we be together and
live happily?
But when the investment does not yield the outcome that we
expected or does give an unexpected result, we feel at a loss. This loss might
lead to complications. However, it depends upon how we handle this loss.
On the other hand, rising in love is about investing, but
without expectations. Here, we needn’t think about possessing the other person
or think what/where/how/why of the other person. These questions are not necessary.
The only aim is to give to that person. The person might/mightn’t take what we give
but that does not make us happy or sad. Out duty becomes only to give. The act
of giving without expecting anything in return leads to satisfaction and gives
peace of mind. No matter how the other person responds, our aim of giving to
the fullest continues till the moment we are able to. As there is no
expectation, there is no pain to receive. No sufferings. Being able to give and
only give is a moment of bliss. No expectations –no worries about profit or
loss. It’s solely about doing out duty no matter what happens—the duty to give.
The abovementioned idea is personal—a balanced approach
towards how love can be beautified. Read somewhere “Happiness is the ratio
between what we expect and what we get.” So very true. Let’s not expect and let’s
be happy. Let’s rise in love. Love is indeed beautiful.
