Suppression

Suppression! These days a well known term. Actually related to psychological area and might even result in various abnormalities. We can see many examples in our surroundings. But why has it become so common? We are going to seek causes and find solutions as we move ahead.

The world is moving faster day per day. It is becoming more competitive. People have no time; no time for anything, whether to eat, sleep or enjoy. They just work , work and work trying to make themselves efficient. Because one needs to do so to sustain ate the present. Darwin’s theory “Survival of the fittest” truly fits in today’s context. If we want to live being a winner, we must labor hard but if we don’t, our failure is right before us. So everybody is busy thinking about themselves. Importance of time has been increased much more for people now. They have lot many things to do in short time. They hardly have time for others. As a result, suppression is increasing in people resulting in mental disturbances. Most of us are not aware of it when it happens. We just continue suppressing ourselves but once we become unusual, life becomes horrible. We then are totally unable to get the hold of it.

Life is such we can’t do everything we want. We can’t be completely driven only by our id. Suppressing is directly related to our unconscious mind. We have desires and wishes, all of which can’t be fulfilled. So it gets suppressed. But suppressing things does not kill those desires completely. They remain there in our mind throughout our life, but in hidden form. We just are not able to know these suppressed desires in the conscious state because they remain in the unconscious level.

By the way, whether talking about whether suppression is good or bad, we need to know in what context it has taken place. It is good at times when the desires are unusual. In contrast, if the desires are normal but can’t be fulfilled, they are bound to be suppressed. The suppression leads to mental complexities. And if this increases even more, then it will soon turn out to be disastrous also. If we suppress our emotions and desires on one occasion, it naturally emerges out at the other moment. If might happen even without our knowing. It is good to suppress our extreme antisocial desires because we are humans and are termed as rational beings. We rank ourselves superior to animals because of the quality of self-control that we possess and also we can distinguish what needs to be done and what deserted. We live in a society and so we have to respect and follow its norms. To remain in a society and live life to full, there is questioning of following its principles. But everything has a limit.

Can we prevent ourselves from falling into a prey of mental conflict due to suppression? Surely we can. Some methods according to psychologists are self-analyzation, communication, interaction, expressing ourselves. The best and the easiest way referred by psychologists today is communication. Things happening to us needs to be expressed to somebody. Then only we get the calmness. We might also say “Why to share with others when they neither understand nor believe to what I say?” and remain just quiet all the time. This is the mistake we make. It is obvious to have such feelings but what we need to know is to find somebody who is there to listen to our griefs and sorrows is a great chance to release ourselves. We all are humans and have heart. In our lifetime, we come across same phases that others have gone through or will be going soon. Though the experiences are somewhat different with all of us, there lies similarities to some extent. So people can feel what we are going through if we share ourselves with them. And this process of sharing makes us relaxed.

On the whole, though suppressing emotions and feelings is becoming the way of our life, we can prevent ourselves from any ill happenings we get by overdoing it. There are different ways to release ourselves; however, the best one is to express us before others. We have so many people who care for us. But, we fail to see them at times. It is very difficult to find someone amidst this hectic life schedule who listens to what we say. So, what are we waiting for ? Let’s express emptying ourselves feeling free of any bad happenings that might occur after sharing things. Let’s learn to trust sometimes. Sharing is always better than ending our life exploding our head. Let’s move ahead. Somebody is waiting for us.